Why give birth from a loser husband, and then wander with children in the corners - I don't understand such women
An old friend called me a couple of days ago. We are not close friends, we rarely communicate, therefore I have not seen or heard her for a long time before. I called for a reason, asked if I had acquaintances who rents an apartment inexpensively.
I do not seem to have, although I promised her to think, to remember. She asked what had happened, who needed an apartment. After all, if you come across among friends, you need to know whom you recommend as tenants.
She says that her daughter is divorced, she left her husband with children, now we need to rent an apartment. She (my friend) has a small house on the edge of the city, in the village. Everyone huddles there, and children need a kindergarten, a school, but not close.
I know that her daughter jumped out to marry ten years ago as a 20-year-old girl to a man almost twice her age. Even then I did not like him, and Anya (my friend) was not delighted, she dissuaded her daughter, but she did not listen.
He was already divorced, two children from his first marriage. Already on this it was possible to draw conclusions - he did not help the children, he paid alimony at the wrong time, since there are always problems with work. The former seemed to catch him all in order to knock money out of him for the children.
Anya saw all this, but her daughter, as if enchanted, did not want to hear anything, so she married him.
She left to live with him, he then, after the divorce, returned to his mother in a kopeck piece. He lived with her. He also brought his young wife there. She gave birth almost immediately, a year later. And their problems also began almost immediately - she and the child are on maternity leave, and he earns a penny.
Also alimony. Then his mother died, they were alone in this apartment - old, without repair.
I don’t know how they lived all this time, but Anya periodically complained. It seems that even a couple of times my daughter left him, but returned. Then he started drinking too.
So it would be okay to stop at one child - and she gave birth to two more. The youngest is only 2.
Why? What did you hope for? If after the first year of life it was clear that he was a loser, did not know how to earn money, support his family, and was irresponsible. Yes, it was clear even before their marriage.
Anya says that she did not interfere, although her heart ached for her daughter. Of course, what's the point of a mother interfering if her daughter still does not listen and does not understand into which pit she is sinking deeper and deeper.
And now they got divorced, like they lived for 11 years. He and her children expelled her from his apartment. She filed a lawsuit, but while something is decided there ...
He is now looking for housing in the city. Three around the neck, all small. The eldest daughter is only a schoolgirl. Anya was going to pay for the apartment so that her grandchildren could live next to the school, the kindergarten, and her daughter got a job - she had to live on something. The husband, of course, does not give money, alimony is through the court, and you will not get those from him in time.
I understand everything, the girl is young, fell in love. But then, when she herself saw that he was unlucky, why did she give birth to two more. After all, it was clear that he would not provide them. And what will she give them? She, too, has neither proper education nor skills.
She will not be hired for a high-paying job, only as a seller somewhere or as a waitress. And to feed three, dress, collect to school ...
It’s not for me to judge, of course, their life, but something is boiling. Why women are so blind and act so thoughtlessly, I cannot understand. After all, she herself will now suffer, wander in the corners, and the children will grow half-starved. It's good, there is still a mother who helps.
In general, a sad story and absurd for me. Anya is also very upset, but what to do - she has to live on.