If the wife works, then let her also invest in the family budget on an equal footing, and not spend everything on herself - I think so
In a normal family, each of the spouses tries to make their own contribution to the common cause. And this applies not only to labor and housekeeping, but also to finances.
I think any adequate person will agree with me. But in my family everything is different, and the egoism of my wife is simply off scale. She got a job because she has a lot of free time, and she put me before the fact: she will spend all the money she earned only on herself.
I understand that everyone should have their own pocket money in order to afford to buy something for the soul, without reporting for the amount spent. But how can you take everything for yourself and do not care about the family budget?
After all, we do not live separately. And I have only one explanation: she just wants to live at my expense - so that I pay for the communal apartment, feed her, drink, buy household appliances into the house, dressed and shod her, created comfortable conditions for her, and she would simply live without obligations to her family.
But the most important thing is that it annoys me even more - at the same time she also indicates what to buy into the house, what repairs to do, she expects some gifts, because, you see, she wants attention.
She wants her opinion and requests to be taken into account in everything that concerns our life. But at the same time, she herself did not put a penny on what she uses.
When I seriously raised this issue so that she would give the money she earned to the common piggy bank, she told me that a normal man should earn enough to be enough for the whole family. But I'm not an Arab sheikh to keep her like in a harem.
All my acquaintances and colleagues have, like normal people - wives come home from work and manage to cook food, they monitor the cleanliness of the house, but at the same time give all their salaries to the general budget.
And they don't cry that it's hard for them - they accept everything as it is. And husbands do not nag that they earn little. There are even those from whom the wife receives a little more - and even then they live in harmony.
And mine has seen enough of these glamorous series on TV and now wants, as she puts it, "to feel like a woman." So that she does what she wants, go to all these beauty salons, follow the fashion, change blouses like socks. Yes, only real life is completely different!
Maybe someone is able to provide for his family in such a way that he did not need his wife's salary at all. But then what happens - those who cannot do that, are flawed?
Not all professions allow you to earn enough to sustain the whole family. I think this: if the family does not have enough money, then the wife is simply obliged to go to work. And at the same time, do not be selfish and let everything down on yourself, and do not cry about a hard life, but try for common interests.