“Sit with my son, you still don’t work” - impudent neighbors are again attacking my personal boundaries

Hello!

It just so happened historically that for some reason I write on my channel only about negative aspects in communicating with neighbors. Probably, I have become old and I want to grumble) Someday I will definitely write good things, but now I will tell you about the latest events with my neighbor Lenochka.

Lena, like many women, by the age of 30 managed to get married, give birth and divorce. Only with new love is not yet lucky and the mother is raising her son alone. The boy, by the way, is wonderful.

My husband and I decided to go to the country for the whole December. In a small settlement, where the village smoothly flows into SNT. He took a vacation, I tuned in to a leisurely life and daily walks in the forest-fields. We arrived, it turned out, the entire settlement was almost extinct: because, probably, most of us are summer residents, and they live here by raids.

Therefore, I was very glad to see my neighbor, Lena. And she was glad to see me) The three of us had a good evening, chatted, gossiped. And after 2 days Lena calls:

Listen, won't you sit with my son? I have appendicitis on a hike, now the ambulance will be lucky to the regional hospital. I don't know who else to ask, my mother can come only in a day... In the meantime, will Slavik stay with you?

Like any normal person, I did not refuse to help a woman. True, her mother came and took Slavik the next day. And Lena herself soon returned: it turned out not to be appendicitis, but an exacerbation of a chronic "female" disease, which was prescribed to be treated on an outpatient basis at the place of residence with injections.

Lena thanked me from the bottom of her heart, and in response I said a phrase that became fateful in our relationship:

Come on, I don't work anyway

And very soon the request was repeated. Only this time Lena went to the city to resolve some legal issues with her ex-husband: it is not hard to guess that a man who beats in the chest about love for his son does not pay him a dime.

I agreed, but without enthusiasm. I understand when the case is urgent. And so I want to relax in the village, and not play the role of a nanny... The husband, too, was no longer delighted with the small guest. But we both understood: the boy had nothing to do with it.

For some reason, my mother only arrived the next morning. I don’t know how she negotiated with her ex-husband, their business)) This time she said thank you, put a box of chocolates on the table and left with Slavik.

Gone and gone! They exhaled and were delighted. But it was not there! After 2 days, Lenka was getting ready for the city again. I did not even name specific reasons. I suspect, again with the former I decided to "Agree")) It's a young thing.

But then I got bombed! I told her right away: if you don't have appendicitis, then I rest and don't work as a nanny. Lena was not embarrassed by my rudeness and she gave me an ingenious phrase:

Well, you don't work anyway, why not sit down?

Why do such people think they owe everything? And you can read the past story with a neighbor's grandmother here: Obsessive neighbor in the country: how to go home!