Why a man does not seek to earn and provide for his woman - the problem is in her, not in him
Many couples quarrel over lack of money. And the situation when the husband is lying on the couch and the wife scolds him for inaction and unwillingness to earn an extra penny is far from uncommon.
But I believe that in this case the problem is often not in the lazy man, but in the woman. And I can substantiate this.
The overwhelming majority of women want, as they often put it, "to be behind a man like a stone wall." So that it is the man who protects them from trouble, protects them, carries them in his arms and, of course, earns a lot of money.
And I know for sure that every normal man does not mind at all that it was so. But what does he actually see? Reproaches, demands and continuous criticism.
It just so happened that the average woman will not go into her pocket for a word if she needs to criticize her husband in something. But to say something good to him, to reward compliments for a good deed, she just won't turn her tongue.
And no matter how hard a man tries, all the results are taken for granted, but for mistakes that are not alien to any person, he gets the full program.
And therefore the man chooses the only correct option - since no one appreciates his efforts, then they should not be taken.
What difference does it make if, apart from reproaches, he still hears nothing in his address? Of course, it's easier to lie back on the couch.
The other side of the issue is freedom of action. For example, a woman wants her husband to get a better-paying job, become more entrepreneurial, and bring home more money.
But as soon as a man makes any important decision, his wife will immediately correct it: "Do this, not that, do as I said - and that's it."
And if not, then quarrels and misunderstandings begin. But if a woman wants her to have a strong-willed man, then why interfere in his decisions?
I confess to you that men are the most ordinary people. No matter how strange it was for women to hear. Yes, they want to be strong, make big decisions and make a lot of money. But at the same time, they really need moral support.
It is complicity, help, and not instructions and demands. And men, just like women, want compliments for their efforts, simple kind words, elementary praise. But nobody wants to work out of the bargain!
And that is why a man who hears every day: “You have to earn more money” will come to the conclusion that he does not owe anything to that woman who is always criticizing him and will not lift a finger in response. And for another, who sincerely says: "Beloved, I believe in you," he will move mountains.
Many narrow-minded women look with envy at wealthy ladies who do not skimp on praising their husbands and say that they themselves would praise such. But at the same time they do not even understand that it was precisely such a good attitude towards a man that helped him to become successful.