I'm 55, I'm plump and not very beautiful, but there are a lot of men around me - I'll tell you why I'm so attracted to them
I am a free lady, the children are already adults, I live for my own pleasure. I'm not going to get married, I don't want to be a servant again. It's not that age to adapt to someone and endure someone's tricks. But I don't avoid relationships, I get to know each other, communicate, meet.
I am 55, I am plump and I have never considered myself a beauty. Although I always take care of myself - hair, makeup, manicure-pedicure - I do everything, I follow everything.
And what is interesting, there are always many men hovering around me. I have never experienced a lack of their attention. As soon as I want to, there will definitely be a suitor. And now there are many men younger than me who are happy to communicate.
But I have a friend, the same age, but a slender, attractive blonde, has not been able to start a relationship for 5 years already, the gentlemen for some reason disappear after two or three meetings with her.
What's wrong? Why do they stick to me and run away from her, although if you look at the two of us, it seems that everything should be the other way around.
I think it's all about my character and how I generally treat men, how I communicate with them. I even once interviewed them, and many confirmed that these are the features that attract me.
Here are the features:
I'm laughing. She always treated everything with humor, always knew how to play a trick on a difficult situation and on herself. It is impossible to communicate with me for a long time and not laugh. I myself avoid people who have a tight sense of humor.
And men like funny women, they like it when I make them laugh, I lift their spirits. My friend doesn't know how, she doesn't understand all the jokes, she doesn't understand ironic humor at all.
I have no grudge against men, I love them as a species. Yes, we are different - two separate species - men and women. It just often happens that a woman, faced with betrayal or a difficult relationship, begins to hate all men, they say, all the goats.. they all need only one thing, you cannot trust men.
I also have a negative experience, but I can't stand the situation with one person at all and I don't expect every trick. I love men, as such, and I believe that there are many good, worthy people among them. I do not blindly trust, I do not let me close, but I have no grievances or complaints.
My friend is very offended by the ex and therefore all these negative feelings are constantly projecting onto other men who are trying to look after her. They feel it and do not linger.
I am self-sufficient and do not expect anything from anyone. I have been making good money for a long time, I have my own apartment and all the benefits I need. It is important for me that my man earns well, but in order to be an equal and partner, and not so that I solve my problems at his expense.
I do not like greedy people, they hate those who are not ready to take care of a woman, give her gifts, spend money on her, but I do not demand this, I do not set conditions, I do not show that a man should and must.
My friend considers herself a queen, and loves to "spin" men for expensive gifts, and to be invited to expensive restaurants, taken to rest.
I can listen and support. We are by nature designed so that women like to talk more than men. But this does not mean that they do not like to talk and to be listened to. In general, the ability to listen to a person, not to burden him with our problems, the ability to support, cheer up are rare and good traits.
I did not notice such a quality in myself, for me it was something ordinary, natural, but many men tell me that they appreciate me for the fact that I know how to listen and support.
My friend loves to talk about herself and to listen only to her.
I am also an excellent cook and can mentally sing to the accompaniment of a glass. I know how to rest - even in the woods, even fishing, even to a resort - and I can be a savage in a tent, and I love hotels. In general, I easily adapt to any conditions. And men appreciate this too.