How to behave correctly if you are rude and rude - I will tell you 5 effective psychological techniques
Nobody is insured against rudeness, otherwise insurance companies would go broke instantly. And in crowded places, this is even a kind of traditional form of behavior - for example, in public transport, at checkouts or at the doors of offices, where large spontaneous queues are created.
And many calm and adequate people, and especially those who are very impressionable, are unsettled by a meeting with a rude person and spoil their mood for the rest of the day.
Nevertheless, negativity can be avoided by learning how to behave correctly with a boor. And I even know a few of these techniques.
Politeness
If someone, at the mention of politeness, remembered the well-known biblical parable about the second turned cheek, I hasten to assure you - this does not work at all with rude people.
Showing yourself weak means giving the troublemaker absolute will, which he will not fail to use and humiliate you even more.
Therefore, politeness should only concern speech, but your position should remain firm. For example, to the indignant question "Where are you going?" you can always answer with a polite phrase: “I understand you, but - wherever I need it. So I'm sorry. "
The set point in the conversation
Rudeness for many people is often a way to let off steam and unnecessary negative emotions. And therefore they will try to heat up the degree of communication, no matter what. And if you are indignant in response, you will only please the rude person.
Therefore, your task is to inform him that you do not want to continue the squabble. It is enough to simply and openly state this with the phrase: "I don't even want to talk about it anymore."
Ironic remarks
The rude person will ignore any of your arguments, no matter how much sense you try to put into them. But he can be confused by the irony.
Standard situation: you are not coping with the report, although you are making every effort to do so. You can besiege the swearing chief with the following phrase: "I didn't sleep all night today, I thought how to screw up the report!"
Humor
Laughter relieves the atmosphere perfectly. And this can be used to nullify the dialogue with the boor.
It is good if other people are present during such a conversation who can support your joke. Believe me, the opinion of the majority has a very strong effect on troublemakers.
Moreover, in such a situation you can even do without words - for example, turn away from the boor and with a smile defiantly roll your eyes in response to his inadequate claims. The answering smiles of others will be enough for the rude person to understand his mistake.
Prevention
Getting involved in a conversation with a boor will cost yourself more. And if you know for sure that rudeness can be expected from a person, it is better to try to avoid contact with him. Of course, this does not always work. But the best conflict is the one that didn't even take place.