An elderly tyrant - an elderly relative constantly provokes scandals. What to do

A toxic relative is a problem for many families. And if he is also elderly, then the task becomes doubly complicated: there is no getting away from him and no eviction.

At the same time, there is no sense from him either: he does not earn money, on the contrary, he constantly pulls and demands it from children and grandchildren, because his own pension is small.

The nursing home will not pull everything either. So a vicious circle turns out: a person exists, lives, exists, but there is no benefit from him. Only one harm.

If a newly minted abuser begins to provoke scandals, you need to behave as follows:

1. Strictly pull up. It doesn't matter if it is a father, grandfather or some other close person. If he behaves disgustingly, then you cannot put up with it, especially if there are young children in the house.

They definitely should not see an older relative in a deranged state and listen to various insults, including obscene ones, towards their own parents. Let him complain, let him tell the neighbors - that's his business.

Sometimes people even deliberately strip the old tyrant of his content. He has his own income, so let him live on him, since everything does not suit him here. In some cases, this helps. But even if there is no sense, you can not give the impudent will.

He gets loose only in a society where he feels his power. If he feels that no one fears or respects him, he calms down a little in the struggle for independence.

2. Do not be afraid.Tyrants perfectly read the environment and instantly understand which of those present they inspire fear. Therefore, it is necessary to discuss what is happening with the children: explain, tell everything as it is.

This is important, first of all, for themselves: so that they are not afraid of grandfather's attacks and do not believe what he is promoting. Elderly brawlers love to play off relatives among themselves, while they themselves watch what is happening from around the corner and giggle nastily.

Therefore, alas, the child often becomes a bargaining chip: it is easier for him to say all sorts of nonsense, weave fables and instill that his parents despise and do not love him. The soil has been prepared, it remains only to follow the development of events. Therefore, rigidity should become the second self of the middle generation.

Some people, especially women, continue to hope that the elderly father will change, reflect on his behavior, repent, and ask for forgiveness. In this sense, men are much more rational: they perfectly understand that this will never happen.

Therefore, they do not succumb to sentimentality and empty dreams, but strictly control the old tyrant. Many remember him still young and full of strength, harassing his family, beating his mother, threatening his sons. Now it's just time to pay for everything.

Thus, you should not make the main mistake when living with an abuser: to believe in his correction. If a person does not realize his toxicity at 40, then at 70 this will all the more not happen.

On the contrary, he will become even more caustic, more unpleasant, tougher, more resourceful, more cunning, more aggressive. It is necessary to keep it within the framework for the sake of peace of mind for yourself and your children.