When a mother is the cause of loneliness, or why it is difficult to be the child of a toxic woman

Mom is not always the child's best friend, as is commonly believed. Sometimes this is the real enemy: angry, envious, toxic, masterfully wielding passive aggression. Naturally, such a woman cannot have a normal, balanced and mentally adequate child.

Often he has a bunch of complexes, he is afraid of everything and does not achieve anything. And for some, even the nervous system is naughty, because the parent shouted and insulted all the time.

Such a person is almost always alone. He has no friends, he is indifferent to everything connected with intimacy and love. The reason is simple: the mother simply does not let go of herself, suppresses, manipulates, and has not taught to love.

She instills in her child a sense of worthlessness, humiliation, uselessness, remembers every mistake. Even if a growing child tries to break out of this circle, nothing happens.

The complexes sit deep inside and come out at the most unexpected moment. For example, a girl does not know how to accept compliments and react to them correctly. Because my own mother never said a single kind word in her entire life.

The guy begins to humiliate women, because he has a strong grudge against his mother and he will unconsciously take her out on the entire female field.

Why does such a person suffer from loneliness? And is mom always the reason?

1. He does not trust anyone and considers others to be bad. Not because my mother said so. He sees this on her example: the woman did not even consider it necessary to be normal and loving. On the contrary, everything is always bad with her.

The bosses are corrupt, the colleagues are envious, the husband is a cheater. And a child is generally a fiend of hell: he is silent, does not open up, dares to have a personal opinion. Here is the aforementioned and is closed from the offender. He crosses her out of life, but he does not know how to rejoice and be ordinary.

Since childhood, he has had a bunch of unfinished gestalts: classmates looked askance (they suspected and preferred to stay away), grandmother sighed sympathetically, neighbors whispered, father periodically ran away. The child notices everything. He perfectly understands: his mother is an inadequate psyche.

2. The woman does not let go of the children from herself. She dares potential girlfriends, friends, boyfriends, girls, grooms, brides from home. She needs a punching bag, how can she voluntarily let her go free swimming?

It's a mess, you have to intervene and do everything so that you don't even smell like friends and acquaintances. Unfortunately, this female abuser does it admirably. Although she is hysterical, but not stupid. And he understands the consequences of his actions well.

Thus, the child of an unbalanced mother is a real victim. He will be lucky if on the way he meets a normal and understanding friend or partner who will warm up and teach you to love.

This is usually not an easy process that requires a lot of patience and work. Not everyone decides to essentially re-educate an over-aged child who has never known a mother's affection.

In most cases, this person is simply slaughtered: he is lonely, restless, withdrawn, suffers from intemperance and fear. These are the visible consequences of the terrible nature of the one who should be the closest and dearest person.

But she became an ill-wisher, a negative character, an anti-hero in the lives of her own children. And the most tragic thing about all this is that there are a lot of such women. And, accordingly, there are many psychologically crippled people who cannot love themselves or those around them.