Girlfriends have a bad influence on the spouse, but she does not understand it
We still have a very young family - not even two years after our wedding, but a lot of problems have already appeared in relations with my wife. But the most offensive thing is that they are not even our fault - the whole reason is the wife's friends, who have a very negative effect on her.
And I don’t know how to make sure they never poke their noses into someone else’s family again.
At first, everything was fine with my wife - honeymoon, moving to a new apartment, plans for renovation, discussion of future life. I am a very homely person, I do not need anything except my house and loved ones.
That's why I got married, to live now for my family. And my wife fully supported me in this, we spent all evenings and weekends with her. Until she had friends at her new job.
It all started with my wife's harmless get-togethers after a working day with her friends. Well, I'm an adequate person, I understand that they also need to gossip there, discuss their women's problems.
And it’s also not good to break away from the team. And I didn’t even mind that she allowed herself a couple of glasses of wine to drink at such corporate parties. But then these acquaintances took a completely different turn.
First, she invited two of her new girlfriends to visit us. I didn't mind, we sat down, got to know each other, talked.
I tried to be polite in order to make a good impression on them. And then my wife went home to them with a return visit. Then the first alarm bells began.
One day my wife tells me - my friend has such a gorgeous big TV at home. And the furniture is all new. Because my husband constantly works hard, and you, they say, sit on your pennies in one place. What should I say to her?
We took out an apartment on a mortgage, and make payments normally, there is always enough. But you can't buy everything right away. And she doesn't even want to listen. Because the second girlfriend told her that she indulges me too much, pays a lot of attention to me and in general does not have her own opinion in the family.
I then flared up, of course. He said that these girlfriends would never be in our house again. So my wife began to walk with them to cafes on weekends. And no matter how much I talked to her that it would be better if she spent this time at home, my wife doesn't care about my requests.
But she herself does not notice how these friends get into our family and destroy it. Whatever they say, she accepts their words at face value and does as they say. As if I'm now an empty place for her.
And I have no idea how to keep her from hanging out with these friends. He offered her to change jobs, but she replies that she likes it there and her team is good.
Still, if she sits there all day with them, and then in the evening they also talk on the phone and see each other on weekends. To say that let him choose: either me - or them? What to do?