"I'd rather throw away the extra seedlings and shoots than share with those who ask." Where do the legs of categorical refusals grow from?

Our village, in which my dacha is located, is quite small. Everyone knows each other well for many years and, as usual in tiny settlements, constantly wash bones to others discussing neighbors. Local talk of the town became aunt Mila's "garden greed".

Almost everyone has a plot of land here. And most planters willingly share with each other perennial flower shoots, strawberry whiskers, blackcurrant layering or variegated seedlings of annual crops.

I myself always plant more than necessary. With the expectation that some of the seeds may not sprout, and young seedlings will disappear for some reason

After all, it is convenient when you have surplus tomatoes, which still do not have enough space in a non-rubber (which is a pity!) Greenhouse, but neighbors - squat bushes of petunia are already blooming, which you were going to buy anyway from "Leroy" for decoration verandas.

But Aunt Mila is not a supporter of the philosophy of exchange. Every spring, you can watch a woman drag extra rhizomes of flowers and the remains of vegetable seedlings to the trash

. Despite the fact that neighbors and acquaintances out of habit ask to share, Mila hastily throws dahlia tubers out of the wheelbarrow and shakes seedlings out of spring containers.

My aunt Mila and I have friendly-neutral relations. Maybe because I never asked her for seedlings?)) On the May holidays, taking this opportunity, I decided to find out the reason for the refusals firsthand. And Aunt Mila happily told me a story from many years ago.

Earlier, Aunt Mila shared the garden surplus of her own household with those who wanted it. Until I saw at my acquaintance a marvelous - a beautiful yellow peony, subscribed from the catalog from the Internet. Of course, my interlocutor also wanted to become the owner of a beautiful flower of unusual colors.

But, as you probably already guessed, the request to share a sunny wonder did not find a response in the heart of the owner of the garden exclusive:

- I planted it only 2 years ago, and it has not grown yet. Maybe in a couple of years I'll dig out for you

Aunt Mila's inner world turned upside down after this refusal. According to her, she felt like a "complete sucker". And she decided never to give anything to anyone again. Even in exchange.

One side, I do not blame Mila. If only for the reason that only the owner of the property decides how to dispose of it. She has the right to throw out her seedlings and plant upside down in a greenhouse.

But on the other hand, it seems to me that Aunt Mila is too fixated on her resentment. From year to year, she now throws out flowers and seedlings precisely because of a feeling of revenge on an involuntary offender with a yellow peony. Shaking the ground with a young tomato out of the container and stacking the containers in reserve, she continues to get angry because of the refusal of many years ago, scrolling in her head:

- Well, now I'm not a complete sucker!

I believe that you cannot accumulate grievances and cultivate them in yourself for years. There are many people living in the village who are ready to exchange with gratitude. Let not a yellow peony. In the end, you can order it yourself, since you really want to.

And what do you think? Do you think Aunt Mila's behavior is reasonable?